How To Have An Easy Divorce
It's easy to lose sight of your intentions to have an amicable divorce once contentious issues arise. Read below for some tips on making sure that you and your spouse get things back to the calm and peaceful divorce you wanted to have all along.
Be aware of your stubbornness
In some cases, divorcing parties dig their heels in for no reason. Be sure that the issues you won't compromise on are worthy of the fight. For example, you may automatically want to keep the family home, but be sure to take into consideration the upkeep costs and more.
Kitchen table the discussions
A kitchen table divorce is one where the couple sits down without the help of a lawyer, mediator, or judge and makes decisions about custody, visitation, marital debts, and marital property. Make notes of everything you agree on as well as issues that will need further discussion. Whatever you can do on your own will lessen the expense and time aspect of the divorce.
Consider your future
When dividing up marital assets, choose wisely. You may, for example, not be interested in owning that vacation cottage at the beach right now, but have you considered the income it could produce in the future?
Go for mediation
Divorce mediation allows couples to resolve issues in a non-adversarial atmosphere. One issue at a time is addressed and each party is asked to compromise. Mediation can help couples keep things out of court and puts the job of creating an agreement into their hands.
Make your agreement legal
Whether you worked things out on your own or with a mediator, present your agreement to your respective lawyers and have it put in writing. The judge is very likely to approve an agreement you make as long as it addresses the issue fairly and put the needs of any minor children at the forefront.
Seek mental health help
It's not that you have a mental problem that needs professional help, it's that a professional can provide you with a new way of looking at divorce issues. For example, a therapist can help you understand why you want custody and why your spouse is not suitable (or are they?). Getting therapy can turn issues into non-issues overnight.
Treat each other with respect and courtesy
No matter what caused you to divorce, being kind to each other during the divorce will make things a lot better for everyone, especially the children of the marriage.
Speak to your divorce lawyer to find out more.
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